POLITENESS
The linguistic aspects of interpersonal relations are governed by a set of principles that define linguistic politeness:
Politeness refers to all aspects of discourse that 1. are governed by rules, 2. intervene in the interpersonal relationship, and 3. have the function of maintaining a harmonious relationship (at worst: neutralizing potential conflicts, and at best: ensuring that each participant is as open to the other as possible). (Kerbrat-Orecchioni 1992, pp. 159; 163)
Ordinary conversation is governed by the principle of preference for agreement. The interactionist theory of politeness (Brown and Levinson, 1978) defines individuals by their faces and their territories. Polite intervention respects rules of positive politeness and rules of negative politeness, both toward oneself and toward the interlocutor.
In argumentative situations, this preference for agreement is transformed into a preference for disagreement (Bilmes, 1991). Differences are maximized, with consequences for all components of the linguistic politeness system. The case of the ad verecundiam argument is a typical illustration of this transformation, see preference for agreement.
The interactionist theory of politeness (Brown and Levinson, 1978) defines individuals by their faces and their territories. Polite intervention respects rules of positive politeness and rules of negative politeness, both toward oneself and toward the interlocutor.
In argumentative situations, this preference for agreement is transformed into a preference for disagreement (Bilmes, 1991). Differences are maximized, with consequences for all components of the linguistic politeness system. The case of the ad verecundiam argument is a typical illustration of this transformation, see modesty.
1. Politeness oriented towards the addressee
Negative politeness recommends the avoidance of face-threatening actions, while positive politeness recommends positive actions in relation with respect to the territories and the face of the interlocutor (Kerbrat-Orecchioni 1992, p. 184).
The argumentative situation reverses these principles. The rules of positive politeness are not applied, while those of negative politeness are reversed. For example, the rule « avoid encroachments on the private territories of the interlocutor » (id., p. 184) corresponds to a principle of non-aggression, « do not violate the territory of the other ». In an argumentative situation, there is necessarily a form of aggression and territorial conflict, with encroachments and counter-encroachments.
Another general rule of politeness recommends that parties « refrain from making disparaging remarks, too sharp criticisms, too radical refutations, too violent reproaches » (ibid.) – towards their interlocutor; whereas in an argumentative situation radical refutation is sought rather than avoided and negative challenging of the opponent is a standard strategy. Positive praise for the interlocutor is rare, and when it occurs, it can be an indirect attack on his current positions, see counter-argumentation.
The prohibition of personal attack is a matter of courtesy aimed at protecting the interlocutor for aspects of his person that are not at stake in the debate.
2. Politeness oriented towards oneself
The principles of defending the speaker’s territory recommend that one,
protect one’s territory as much as possible (resist overly invasive incursions, do not allow oneself to be dragged through the mud, do not allow one’s image to be unfairly degraded, respond to criticism, attacks, and insults) (ibid., pp. 182-183).
In argumentative situations, participants vigorously apply these protective principles. In non-argumentative situations, the speaker’s territory is to be protected, but not unduly extended and praised; « our societies severely judge complacency and pro domo advocacy » except in « exceptional circumstances » (ibid.). These exceptional circumstances are precisely those of argumentative situations in which the speakers do not hesitate to praise their persons as well as their territories, that is, their points of view and arguments. The principles of moderation and self-esteem are thus put on hold. In non-argumentative interactions, « if one must praise oneself, at least let it be in the muted mode of understatement » (ibid., 184); one can even « slightly damage one’s own territory and practice light self-criticism » (ibid., 154). This principle requires a willingness to compromise and concede, all of which the arguing speaker may or may not do without being impolite.
The conclusion is that argumentative situations locally suspend the application of the rules of politeness in relation to the objects and persons involved in the discussion. This can even be seen as a fundamental characteristic, a defining criterion of such situations. The protagonists use a kind of « anti-system of politeness » that reflects the system of politeness. However, to speak of a « system of impoliteness » would imply that all these interventions are perceived as rude, which is not the case, notwithstanding the fact that in such situations the partners can engage in polemics about the « tone » of their interventions.
The redefinition of the politeness system applies strictly to the aspects of the person, the face, and the territories involved in the argumentative conflict. Outside of these areas, the rules of politeness still apply. Thus, it is possible for an arguer to praise his or her personality and possessions and to attack the status or values of those of his opponent in an argumentative interaction where his behavior will independently be polite or impolite.